How to Coach Yourself Through the Worst Weeks (and what it really sounds like).
5 ways to keep going when you want to quit.
Perseverance is not the same as pressing the gas pedal to the floor.
Resilience is not the same as overriding the urge to let up on the gas.
perseverance is a willingness to develop resilience.
Resilience means choosing a growth mindset — actively looking for growth opportunities. Sometimes opportunities for growth are hard to find. Other times, they stare us in the face but are hard to accept.
The bigger the uncomfortable truth, the more likely you need to hear it.
Resilience depends on persistent perseverance.
so, how do you build resilience?
Radical acceptance
Failure
Adaptability
Humble accountability
A desire to improve
1. radical acceptance.
It sounds like this:
“I can only change that which I have control over”.
“I can only move forward based on what is true in this moment, using my recognition of that truth”.
“I will look for the pieces of the situation that I can act on. I will strive to understand how I can act on them”.
2. failure.
Sometimes resting feels like failure. Conquering it sounds like this:
“Why can’t I stop to rest before continuing on to the finish line? I can. I will.”
“At times, I’m going to fail. Yup, I know… not fun. But it means I get to try again.”
“What can I do differently? (See above on looking for what I can control).”
3. adaptability.
Practicing it sounds like this:
“I will look for what I can control, and for what I can do differently when I’ve failed. I will need to be open to change”.
“My situation is going to look different than I thought it would. It just is”.
“My expectations of what will happen are not guaranteed. I will need to be ok with the new elements of my equation”.
4. humble accountability.
It sounds like this:
“I was wrong”.
“There are ways that I contributed to where I currently find myself. I’m willing to look at them so I can learn what I don’t know; or learn what I executed incorrectly”.
“I’m not perfect, I won’t be perfect, I don’t expect others to be perfect”.
5. a desire to improve.
It can be trained and it sounds like this:
“I want to get better. I’m willing to try and I am willing to fail”.
“I can rest. I can seek to understand. I can try again”.
“I’m prepared to use the skills that I already have to enhance them and to develop new ones”.
The way we talk to ourselves sets the foundation of our framework.
The byproduct of discipline is routine. You are that which you consistently do. Routines bear fruit.
Does your routine account for rest?
Resilience works better when accompanied by empathy. Coach yourself. Cheer for yourself. Be kind to yourself. Intervene in your negative thought cycles with some positive self-talk.
See what happens.
If you, like me, need the reminder — rest; don’t quit.
talk soon.
Thank for being here. See you next time.
onward.
-dmac
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